Meditation of a Mormon Virgin 剩女

choi

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Nicole Hardy, Single, Female, Mormon, Alone. New York Times, Jan 9, 2011 (Modern Love).
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/09/fashion/09Modern.html?_r=1&scp=2&sq=mormon%20&st=cse

Note:
(a) For my title, I choose meditation over confession.
Some Chinese in China translate 剩女 as "leftover ladies."
(b) halitosis (n; Latin halitus breath, from halare to breathe): "a condition of having fetid breath"
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(c) Every Sunday New York Times publishes Style section, which invariably has a column called Modern Love, written by a different writer each week. I have no idea who they are or if they are invited (by editors).
(d) Summary of the above: A Mormon woman virgin, then age 35, visited Planned Planhood to have IUD inserted. IUD stands for intrauterine device, used for contraception. She eventually had first sex a year later.
(e) I am a Mormon, though not religious. It is true that a Mormon is not supposed to drink alcohol or coffee, smoke, or have sex outside a marriage. But I did ask fellow church-goers and the local church (near Harvard University in Cambridge) when life started, whether contraception, abortion or homosexuality was acceptable; they did not know.

My own experience with Mormon is different from Ms. Hardy's, who writes,
"in a system where marriage is not only a commandment, but also one of life’s primary purposes;"
"Mormon doctrine promises that single members denied marriage, family and sex lives on earth will have them after death;"
(f) Ms. Hardy says Mormon "people marry young, for obvious reasons." To enjoy sex, that is--according to her. Some Mormons I knew--undergraduates at MIT--married young. Why I don't know. But outwardly they seem very happy, not unlike other newly weds. And they were ambitious, too, wanting to be doctors, etc. It is not as if they got married and put their career aside, to mate like rabbits, produce offspring, and do nothing else (as Orthodox Jews have done).
(g) Ms. Hardy commends that healthcare providers in Planned Parenthood were caring. But any provider will proceed gingerly, considering that IUD insertion entails the breaking of the hymen first.


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An age-old issue: After half a year of terrific sex, intimacy stops.

Carolyn Hax, A man of Her Dreams, and a Very Real Problem. Washington Post, Jan 9, 2011.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2011/01/04/AR2011010403724.html


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choi

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Another column, about bed wetting.

Amy Dickinson, If you're rethinking marriage, it's best to wait. Chicago
Tribune, Jan 9, 2011.
http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/tribu/askamy/ct-sun-0109-amy-20110109,0,928902.column

PS I want to thank the boardmaster for having fixed at least two URLs in various postings of mine in the past several days.

【 在 choi 的大作中提到: 】
: Nicole Hardy, Single, Female, Mormon, Alone. New York Times, Jan 9, 2011 (Modern Love).
: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/01/09/fashion/09Modern.html?_r=1&scp=2&sq=mormon%20&st=cse
: Note:
: (a) For my title, I choose meditation over confession.
: (以下引言省略...)

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